Knowing how to use a condom correctly is an important skill, and one that is handy to know before you start having sex. Often people think they already know how to use condoms, or make the assumption ‘surely it can’t be that hard to figure out’, however, there are a few more steps than you might think.
Blow job, going down, giving head, 69-er, or if you want to get really technical – ‘cunnilingus’ (mouth to vulva/vagina), ‘fellatio’ (mouth to penis), or ‘anilingus’ (mouth to anus) are all names which you may have heard for oral sex. So what exactly is oral sex, does it actually count as ‘real’ sex, and how safe is it? Let’s explore, shall we?
Breaking, slipping, leaking, failure = #condomfail. You know, all those things you don’t want to happen when you’re using a condom. Surprisingly many of us are making errors which lead to these sticky situations occurring. To help, we’re going to clue you in to why these failures happen and how you can prevent them from happening to you.
Our parents are often the natural choice to turn to when we have big life questions. As we get older, these questions may become a tad more intimate, but knowing our parents have our backs on the difficult stuff can help us navigate the crazy complexities of human intimacies.
Sex is a perfectly normal and natural part of life. Chances are your parents have already been through most of what you’re experiencing. They can be priceless sources of information and, more importantly, support. That said, broaching the subject can be kind of awkward.
For many of us, a visit to the doctor can be awkward. So it’s not surprising the idea of your first sexual health check-up could be downright terrifying. Someone you barely know asking intimate details about your sex life or worse still, wanting to have a look at your private parts.
Relax.
Like a lot of things in life, what we imagine something will be like is a lot scarier than what it is really like. So to make it even easier for you, we’ve answered some of the most common questions people want answered before they go for their first sexual health check-up below.
Do you make love, do the horizontal dance, copulate or mate? There are a thousand ways to talk about sex without literally using the word ‘sex’, but they all mean slightly different things. In fact, there’s a whole vocabulary around the world of relationships in general. In order to navigate these tricky waters, here’s a bit of sex-slang, de-coded.
All the way – To have sex with someone.
Bae – means ‘before anyone else’ and is usually used in reference to your partner, lover or crush. i.e. ‘I can’t wait to catch a movie with my bae tonight.’
Making the choice to have sex for the first time can be a big one.
While it’s all about you feeling ready and comfortable when you decide to have sex, it’s equally important to know how to deal if someone asks you to do so without protection.
All you ever have to do is remember these no-condom comebacks in case you, or even a friend, get stuck in a tricky situation and you don’t exactly know how to deal with it.
I’m sorry, but I’m really not comfortable having sex without one.
Making it easier to clean up any mess, where to get them for free, and not being limited to penises, what parent’s leave out when talking about condoms.
So, your internal playlist may be playing ‘Let’s Get It On’ by Marvin Gaye but when you really start to think about the nitty gritty of sex, you’re wondering if you really are ready for it. It’s totally okay, you’re not alone. In fact, everyone questions themselves when it comes to losing their virginity. Here are a few things to consider when thinking about doing the deed for the first time.
It’s okay to wait: There’s no perfect age to have sex. It really depends on the individual. Some people lose their virginity in their teens while others wait longer; after all, there are other ways to have fun without going all the way. Each person has their own reasoning and should not be pressured to make this choice, that’s kind of the beauty of this big decision; you should do it your way.