From sex that lasts for hours to the idea that it’s totally easy the first time (err, ouch), porn paints a pretty unrealistic picture of what goes on when it comes to sexual encounters.
Here, we break down the top five sex myths spun by porn films and hopefully learn a thing or two about what sex in real life is really all about.
Everyone climaxes every time
Contrary to popular belief, people don’t orgasm every single time they have sex – seriously, science proves it. For over a third of women, vaginal sex isn’t always a sure-fire way to orgasm. This can also vary depending on their sexual orientation. Research has found that lesbians climax more than hetero or bisexual women.
All bodies are built trim, taut and well-endowed (guys and girls, included)
Fact: we’re all different. So different, in fact, that there’s a stark differentiation between what you see in porn and what you see at, say, a Friday night gathering at your BFF’s house.
Not only that, but, on average, the Australian woman has gone up TWO dress sizes and put on 7.3kg, coming in at 71.1kg, since the sixties, while the average man is 12kg heavier than 50 years ago.
Sex is purely physical
OK, yes, sex is technically physical, but in the non-porn world, it can totally be just as emotional. It’s a scientific fact that the time after you have sex is super important for promoting satisfaction in intimate bonds (AKA cuddles are everything).
What this means is that, particularly for those who are loved-up and have had sex, an after hug actually leaves both people feeling generally more satisfied than going without.
Erections can last for hours and hours
Well, alright, a seriously small number of people may be able to, but sex between an average couple can last anywhere between 33 seconds and 44 minutes, with the average time being 5.4 minutes.
Not only that, if a condom is used or if the penis is circumcised or not, it won’t impact how long sex lasts (it may even last longer), which leads us to our next point…
Sex without a condom is the only kind of sex to have
One word: WRONG. If you’ve ever watched a porn film, or been told about what goes on in one, you may’ve heard: “Sex feels so good without a condom.” However, it is bad excuses like this one that can lead to your health being harmed and you contracting an STI. Condoms come in all sizes and textures, adding pleasure while being great at preventing STIs.
Overall, porn is a bit of fantasy and can lead us astray in quite a few ways. The best way to enjoy sex is to be open and honest with your partner about what you like and dislike, and to listen to them too.
